7 Fears to conquer in order to be successful
We live in a world where there's a current buzz around success and the quickest way to achieve it. Before we delve into this topic, let me just say that the definition of success varies from one person to the next. For some it may mean driving a luxury vehicle, living in a high-end neighbourhood and having an insanely hot significant other. For others, it may simply be financial freedom. I happen to believe that success is peace, happiness and contentment. Whatever position you take on the subject, there are certain fears you must overcome, in order to achieve your lofty goals.
1.Change
The fear of change can be a real challenge that may get worse with age if it goes unchecked. Most human beings love comfort and predictability because it\'s safe. We embrace what we know and resist what we don\'t understand. However, it is not the strongest species that survive, rather the most adaptable. One of the ways of dealing with this fear is to read about the particular change in question and consult people who seem to be breezing through it. Take advice from such people and you'll be fine.
2.Rejection
From a psychologist's point of view, the greatest need human beings are born with is the need for acceptance. Although it is natural, it can sometimes prove destructive. The fear of rejection often influences the decisions human beings make. We may sometimes fear being misunderstood, ridiculed or criticised. How do we fight it? one may ask. Do you and the world will catch up. Also, don't take criticism from someone you'd never go to for advice.
3.Failure
By now, you're probably tired of hearing the cliché, ‘Fail early and fail often’, I could not reiterate it enough. Success really is the product of repeated failure. From where I sit, the greatest brands in any industry include people with knowledge on how NOT to go about a business-related task. These are people who have mastered the art of predicting and protecting yourself from any risk thrown at you by failing in the past.
4.Offending others
Now before you get excited about the thought of offending people as a means to success, wait. That's not what I mean. Don't offend people intentionally. However, if you plan to do a task that will edify you, put your needs first. Don't think about who you may offend. You are responsible for your success. In fact, any human being that would be offended by the thought of you advancing yourself should not be in your circles. Whether they are family or not.
5.Fear of success
Bet you didn't see that coming lol. Real talk though; it is a fear that many unsuccessful people battle. Once again, it stems from a fear of the unknown. In this case, that is a level of success you have never known before. From a scientific point of view, they have every right to feel that way. This is because it is a proven fact that you go through all the stages of depression once you attain a standard you never thought was possible. Someone once told me, wealth changes the people around you, not you. Loved ones may even begin to scrutinize you unnecessarily. This may depress you. One way to deal with it is to get support. See a psychologist, even when you're happy so you can maintain that happiness. Write down details surrounding situations that made you happy then repeat them. Also, talk to other successful people to get tips on thriving in your new state. You are never alone.
6.FOMO
For those of you who don't already know, this stands for 'Fear of missing out'. You will never regret the events or parties you missed out on because you were trying to edify yourself and boost your market value. Whatever it takes to get better at your trade, do it. It pays off eventually.
7.Inconsistency
If you grew up in an African household you probably remember being told that becoming the best is easier than remaining the best. Many people are afraid of getting wealthy then broke again. Before you know it every blogger out there is writing your 'grace to grass' story. You may also fear your brand being overtaken by trends and technology if you're not particularly IT savvy. There are many ways to fight this fear. Read a lot and partner with gurus in your areas of weakness. Also, don't forget to live. Enjoy the journey and seasons that come with it. Remember gratitude. For a grateful heart, is a peaceful heart.
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